My vows are inspired by the eightfold path, a Buddhist teaching described as the path that leads to the cessation of suffering and the achievement of self awakening. For my vows I am drawing draw insights from these eight areas of guidance in order to create a lasting marriage full of happiness and free of suffering.
1. Right understanding
Four noble truths of a happy marriage:
1. Happy marriages exist
2. There are causal factors that lead to an unhappy relationship
3. There are ways to avoid those factors, and have a happy marriage
4. This is the path to a happy marriage
2. Right intention – I vow to live my life from a place of love and compassion with an informed heart and feeling mind, enabling me to practice letting go of that which causes me suffering.
3. Right speech – I vow to be truthful and forthright. I vow to be kind and loving in all the words i share with you. When communicating my grievances, i will use Curiosity and compassion, rather than complaining and condemnation.
4. Right action – I vow to always act in a manner that will bring about the most happiness for us as a couple and we as a family. I will always strive to ensure you are never left with an undue burden and you always have help, and help with a smile.
5. Right livelihood – i vow to be a good financial steward for our family, producing enough wealth for us to fulfill our needs and pursue happiness as we see fit, while saving enough to plan for our future and deal with emergencies.
6. Right effort – I vow to consciously rid my self of those actions and thoughts which take away from our pursuit of a happy marriage and act only in a way that furthers happiness for both of us and our family. I commit myself to fulfilling this path.
7. Right mindfulness – When one is constantly living in the future or the past, they are missing out on the present. I vow to be wholly present during every moment we spend together, what better place to be than enjoying life with my favorite person in the world.
8. Right concentration – Is the goal of the eight fold path. In the individual spiritual sense, right concentration means that through meditation or concentration, one can bring about the cessation of all suffering and ill will and continuously exist in a state of inner tranquility.
The original Sanskrit word for this part of the path is Samma-Samadhi. Samma means right, prefect, or thorough. And samadhi literally means absorption.
Catherine, I vow to give myself to you, to let go of anything and everything that takes away from our tranquility and peace. In fulfilling this path, i will literally cease to be me, and become fully absorbed as part of you, and as you a part of me.
I love you cat. I am grateful the universe has brought us together and we have shared in our love for one another by creating this wonderful family. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you.