Marriage means different things to different people and now that I have agreed to marry John, I am exploring what marriage means to me.
Part of living as a sovereign individual means taking responsibility for your personal relationships. In the world of marriage this means removing third parties such as government from your union with your spouse, despite the government benefits a state marriage involves.
Today I listened to the most recent episode of Sex Lies and Anarchy which covers the tradition of marriage and it’s roots. They brought up the fact that traditions such as the father “giving away the bride” stem from the idea of male ownership of women. The father is literally giving the groom ownership of the woman, at least it was seen that way at one time.
John and I have already decided we will not involve the state in our marriage in anyway. We do not want a third party involved in our relationship, but we do plan to sign a contract with each othercommitting to a life long partnership.
I can’t decide if I should wear a white dress or not, since I will have two children and white traditionally symbolizes virginity. I also question my ability to change my name, it seems like I would be losing my identity.
I know our wedding will be fun and unique, but I still have lots to explore.
Check out the podcast here and let me know what you think.
What is marriage to you? Is it a celebration of love? A spiritual bond? A contract with your spouse? A license from the state?all of the above?
Here is John proposing ( more family photos at www,blushfamilyfarm.com